HOW TO DEAL WITH A VIOLENT WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND.

January 10, 2010   ·   ASTUTE MALE OBSERVER   ·   Jump to comments

Teaching Men How To Deal With a Violent Woman (And there are many!)

If only I had written this article a year ago, Chris Brown would not have not have gotten into the trouble and mess that he landed in. Rhianna may have started the hitting, but it is Brown who faced the arresting – and that’s the way it will always be. Guys – never hit back! The police will always take her side and you will end up in the slammer! It’s not fair that if someone hits you, you can end up in jail for hitting them back – but that’s the way it is if the person hitting you is called W.O.M.A.N. Don’t hit back, even if she deserves it – it’s just not worth all the trouble you’ll end up in. Welcome to Equality.

The fact is a women knows that if a man hits her back and she calls the police, he will most likely get arrested and that emboldens her to strike out at him in the first place.

If a tiny country like Fiji, for example, launches an attack on a military giant like USA and USA strikes back, everybody will accept the USA’s right to defend itself and Fiji would get the blame for being stupid enough to attack the USA in the first place. But if a woman hits a man and the man hits her back, no one blames the woman for hitting him first – she gets all the sympathy and the man gets the handcuffs. It’s not fair but that’s just the way it is. Welcome to Equality.

You have to be the gentleman even though the woman hitting you is certainly not being a lady.

So we’ve made that clear – hitting back is not an option. It’s an absolute no-no.

So what other options do men have?, I hear you ask. Plenty actually, if you use your head instead of your angry emotions. I have drawn up a list of sensible options available to you when faced with a violent wife or girlfriend:

1) Pick up your mobile phone/cell phone. Don’t let it out of your possession. You are going to need it.

2) Flee like Tiger Woods – taking your mobile/cell phone and what’s left of your testicles with you. Make a hasty escape, either out of the room where your wife/girlfriend is or out of the house entirely. You could go to another room within the house and lock yourself in there or get out of the house altogether – just get away from that mad woman!

3) Call the police on her man-hating behind – she would, if it were the other way round. What’s more, ask for assistance from any one around you – ask neighbours or bystanders to help you because your wife/girlfriend hit you – yes tell them that! Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed. Ask them to call the police for you. You now have witnesses that can confirm that an incident happened, even if they did not see exactly what happened – but they know something occurred. This is what we call corroboration. If you have witnesses who saw the assault, even better – that’s what you call an “eye witness” and they are very useful indeed. More corroboration! Ask them to call the police as well as calling the police yourself. Excellent!

4) Have her arrested. Don’t feel guilty about this. You know she’d do it to you if it were the other way round. If men get arrested for hitting women, then the same should apply the other way around. That’s what we call true Equality.

It is really important to call the police and demand that she is arrested every single time she assaults you. I’m not saying the police will agree to arrest her – we know how ignorant the police are on the matter of female inflicted domestic violence – but by calling the police and demanding her arrest, you have documented reports made by police that show a pattern of violent behaviour on her part. It makes it more difficult for her to play the part of the sobbing-innocent-helpless-female-victim which a lot of manipulative females are prone to doing.

Further more, calling the police and demanding they arrest her will also help her understand that you mean business and will not put up with being hit. It may even put an end to her violent audacity permanently.

5) Decide whether or not you will drop the charges. You may or may not want to go ahead with pressing charges – it all depends on the seriousness of the assault. I say if she caused you to bleed, bruise or left any mark on your body, and you believe the marriage is truly beyond rescue, then go ahead and press charges. She would, if it were the other way round.

Either way, whether or not you drop the charges, the police now have a documented record of her violence against you.

Personally, I say that Tiger Woods should have pressed charges against his wife because what happened that night was so close to a fatality, it’s a miracle no one was killed. It could have been fatal for Tiger Woods or anyone in the vicinity – what if his car had crashed into a bystander or another motorist instead of a fire hydrant? And now his Marauding Viking Wife is divorcing him and suing him for half of his billions! How would she have sued him for half his wealth if she were sitting in a prison cell as a result of Tiger pressing charges against her? Even if she had secured bail, the criminal charges/conviction would have put him in a powerful position when negotiating custody, visitations, divisions of property and assets. I have to say, he missed a trick there – and this is where woman beat men hands down! A woman would never miss an opportunity like that. A woman would have realised – once it became clear that divorce is inevitable and the marriage truly can’t be rescued – that there is a lot of value in pressing charges as it would put her in a very powerful position during divorce settlement i.e. custody of the children, who gets the main house, who has to move out, etc.

That’s not to say that I’m making Tiger Woods out to be the innocent victim here – I abhor adultery. It’s disgusting and so is Tiger. But chasing him in his car with a titanium golf club thereby putting other people’s lives in danger does not achieve anything. Like I said, she’s lucky no one was killed that night or else she would have been in some serious trouble right now.

So these are the things that you need to consider when deciding whether or not to press charges. If you are hoping to repair the marriage and there were no injuries from the assault – then you may decide to drop the charges. At least the police still have the documented incident on their records. If you’ve come to the conclusion that the marriage is truly beyond rescue, you might as well go ahead and press the charges as it will strengthen your position during the divorce settlement.

If she is just a girlfriend, dump her at once because you shouldn’t want that relationship to go anywhere. If she’s hitting you and she’s only a girlfriend, then think what she would be bold enough to do to you if you were dumb enough to wife her. Dump her. Now!

Whatever you do – tell the truth. Don’t make up false allegations against her. That’s called bearing false witness (Holy Bible) or lying to a law enforcement official (Statute Books).

Hope this helps.

Astute Male Observer
(Helping Men Survive Women)

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